“Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the father is not in him. For everything in the world, the Cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does-comes not from the father but from the world.” (1 John 2: 15-17)

I wonder if Jesus ever thinks “why is it so hard for my Father’s children to love me?”

Loving God and not the world should be easier said than done, “but God’s knows we have made this not the case.” Did you know that the world turns on non-believers too? Well, it does. If you do not believe me look around. How many non-Christians do you think are disenchanted with the world and what Satan who they think does not exist offered them in exchange for eternal life. That is all he wants, everybody else’s gift of salvation and eternal life.

The world via Satan produces and presents many different flavors of toxic eye candy, Seemingly, most are irresistible to a distinct majority even though adults know “too many sweets cause decay.” Somebody said the world is a ghetto, it can also describe as a large cavity on many levels. Nobody wants to carry the only brush designed to eradicate decomposition. As it may be, the general population seems to have come to accept systemic corrosion and eventual demonic demise.

I say that because hypocrisy is all the rage among far too many so-called believers. It’s spirit runs “amuck” between the church and world. Perhaps the godly are confused about what it means to “love God and not the world?” That would certainly explain how the contemporary church lost its way?

Is it possible to love God and not love His people?

Christians go there all the time “it’s impossible to love God yet hate your brother?”

But then they come back ignoring, toying and tampering with scripture. Let’s face it, running with Satan is the easiest workout in the world; but trying to walk with Jesus while heading down that path can only lead to a collision. Satan loves the world because he can sell people on every bad thing it has to offer. He knows how to make dirt look clean, ugly come off as pretty and a crooked path look straight.

Now do you see why it is impossible to love God and the world?

The world and its desires eventually pass away but the man who does the will of God lives forever…Do you believe that?

We can live just fine without Satan in our lives but not without God controlling where Satan lives….

Minister Neecy



religious wedding vows
the four foundations of religious weddings are “union, love, honor, and submission”

Religious wedding vows?

“For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.” Ephesians 5: 25

Religious wedding vows differ from civil marriage vows. Couples wanting to express evidence of Christianity usually choose to recite religious wedding vows.

Writing one’s own wedding vows is not a sin, especially since the Bible does not offer an official abstract of ceremonial wedding vows penned for couples. What it does give is nonnegotiable elements of religious wedding vows. The following elements “union, love, honor, and submission” take precedence over all other wedding vow components.

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Hebrews 13: 14

Religious Wedding vows vary in structure as well as style. Many couples opt to write their own wedding vows to make sure personal touches apply.  Whether religious, civil, nonreligious, or primarily symbolic there is an increase in the number of couples who elect to pen their vows. Christians structure wedding vows to satisfy God’s sacred requirements. Perhaps the most important thing for a believer to remember when marrying is; “just its permitted doesn’t mean its acceptable in God’s sight.” Furthermore, while many choices are popular, not all decisions are beneficial, wholesome, or right.


12″I have the right to do anything,” you say-but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”-but I will not be mastered by anything. 13 You say, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will destroy them both.” The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the LORD, and the LORD for the body. 14 By his power God raised the LORD from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” 17 But whoever is united with the LORD is one with him in spirit. 18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.” 1 Corinthians 6: 12-20

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4 Things Religious Wedding Vows Must Have

While many other elements makeup wedding vows, the four foundations religious wedding vows must haves; “union, love, honor, and submission” are neither optional or subject to debate. These foundations encompass the four most important principles of “religious wedding vows.”

“Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2: 24


To understand the significance of structure found in biblical wedding vows couples must first acknowledge God as sovereign. They must submit to His plan as being the only way to enjoy a blessed, successful marriage.

“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8

Civil unions do not adhere to biblical order, and do not acknowledge scriptural based principles required to carry out ceremonies that close in holy matrimony. However, religious wedding vows do. Whether couples choose to have religious or civil wedding ceremonies the end-result is marriage. No human, regardless of religious affiliation, academic status, or pedigree can consider one wedding ceremony superior over another.

Keep your eyes on the prize, your heart open to change, and ears tuned sharply to the unspoken.

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4: 8

Beware of wedding officiate propaganda like “I’m a real reverend or credentialed minister, because every priest who molested children was as well? Essentially, none of this means anything. Christians should know this but even they fall prey to worldly sales pitches. Do not be misled!

“Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32


Getting back to the nucleus of this article we want to focus on what is important! That would be to follow the above referenced four principles when writing wedding vows. Wedding vows serve as somewhat of an insurance policy. Their principles should cover the principles most important to the Father, while instituting godly protocol.

18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2: 18

The institution of marriage is a replica of Christ and His church. Therefore, religious wedding vows must feature components of both human and spiritual size.


“The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” 19 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2: 18-24


“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Genesis 1: 27-28


“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?” Ecclesiastes 4:9


“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, …” Ephesians 5: 25-33

“Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.” Romans 13: 8


1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-5


“If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13: 2

“Do everything in love.” 1 Corinthians 16: 14

“Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned.” Song of Solomon 8:7

“Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.” Psalm 143: 8

“Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.” Proverbs 3: 3-4

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4: 2

“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” John 15:12:

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1 Corinthians 13:13

“You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.” Song of Solomon 4:9:


“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” Hebrews 10:24-25


“There are three things that amaze me—no, four things that I don’t understand: how an eagle glides through the sky, how a snake slithers on a rock, how a ship navigates the ocean, how a man loves a woman.” Proverbs 30:18-19
“No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.” 1 John 4:12

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10


Ruth 1:16-17: “Entreat me not to leave you, or to turn back from following after you; For wherever you go, I will go; And wherever you lodge, I will lodge; Your people shall be my people, And your God, my God. Where you die, I will die, And there will I be buried. The Lord do so to me, and more also, If anything but death parts you and me.” Ruth 1:16-17

“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12: 10

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5: 21

“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7


Emotional Garbage? Believe it or not, you can evict emotional garbage from your head, heart and soul.

Inspiration Time

Happy Monday everyone….

It’s time for our Daily Inspiration

Scripture for today:

From the end of the earth I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed; Lead me to the rock that is higher than I. Psalm 61:2

“The sign of a cluttered mind is one that’s unable to make good decisions on a regular basis.”

Today is a good day to evict emotional garbage from your head, heart and soul.

Emotional garbage hibernates in dark places, flourishes in negative minds and has only one purpose, which is to destroy.

Preserving emotional garbage prevents you from elevating to a higher place, moving forward, looking at the positive and not the negative.

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We all have emotional garbage, but some people have excessive amounts.

The first step to clearing out emotional baggage turned garbage is to stop giving it your undivided attention. Instead, look to the Lord for solutions. Allow the Father to start His exhaustive but complete cleansing process. The Lord will remove every thought put there by the evil one. Whereas you may have failed at evicting everything bad the Father will not.

He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. Psalm 23: 3-4
There is no better day than today to de-clutter!

If you’ve experienced difficulty navigating through this maze called life perhaps it’s time to clear the clutter. Think about it, “there’s only so much we can do about situations that affect destiny? At the end of the day we must depend on God to usher us through.

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11: 28

Holding on to emotional clutter makes it look like we believe at some point, within our own power, that we can fix brokenness.  Emotional garbage contaminates the soul, leaves it empty. Eventually the stench chokes the life out of us.

Is emotional garbage taking up space in your head and heart?

If so, it could be hindering your spiritual or emotional growth!


Favor Disguised as Friction| Be on the Lookout

Recognizing blessings is an art; and sadly, some people just don’t have the skills. For some reason, many of God‘s children choose to focus on what they don’t have, instead of what they do have. And they simply refuse to look for ways to turn lemons into lemonade.

Be on the lookout for “Favor disguised as friction, “favor is not always distinguishable for what it is. I’ll be the first to admit, “sometimes favor is difficult to recognize when you have to go through trials and tribulation to receive it.”

Believing that God is in control is the only way to see favor for what it is.


Finding the positive in a negative situation is the first step to seeing what God has planned for your life. When I accepted the Lord as my Savior He showed me how to make the best out of worst case scenarios.

That’s a gift man can’t give! You never want to forget times when the Lord gave you a vision, an ability to make something out of nothing, and a way out of what looked like no way.


Favor is God’s gift to those who make Him Head. With favor comes an ability to recognize that life is only as good as you allow the Lord to make it. Turning life’s lemons to lemonade is a not only skill it’s a God-given gift.

Since I’ve been out of work I’ve had some time to think about the next phase of my life. Although I have no crystal ball I do have an idea where I’m headed this time. This time, my path is already laid out. Jesus went before me.

While encountering stumbling blocks is a given, this time, if I fall, I know and believe with all my heart that God will pick me up.


And guess what? “I’m good with that!” Looking back to when I got the dreaded call in July of 2013, I’m reminded of how the call made me feel. My heart stopped, my stomach turned.  Continue reading “FAVOR DISGUISED AS FRICTION| Be on the Lookout”



  • “I will love thee, O Lord, my strength. 2 The Lord is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.”

King James Version (KJV) by Public Domain God is our bridge over troubled waters. He is our light in times of darkness and our protector in moments of danger.

If you live long enough, there will be times when your life suddenly falls apart. Maybe you’ll lose a child, parent or a spouse. You may even witness your child being engulfed in the flames of a reckless life of drugs or alcohol. Whatever the situation, it’s not pretty.

However, it is during these times when you should look to Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior for deliverance.

Emotional Garbage has no Business Taking Up Space in Your Head

When tribulation and trials enter our life there is nothing we can do to curtail them. This is God’s way of showing us that we can do nothing without Him. In fact, sometimes we’re forced to make critical and painful decisions in our life as well. Those decisions often define our moral and spiritual fate.

Now the death I speak of is a spiritual one. And in the event we choose to handle things on our own, we may as well curl up and die. THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD FOR THESE REASONS, I don’t want to die a spiritual death, I want eternal life.

So, today, if you don’t know which way to turn, and have no answers, then get down on your knees and call out to “Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.” Let Him know there’s no other help you know! Surrender now!

THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD FOR THESE REASONS….He has never failed me, ignored me, ridiculed me, or left me alone.

As humans we are subject to experiencing highs and lows in life. “It is during these times of highs and lows in our life God does his best work.” Then He’s ready to repair the shattered fragments that pull us apart.

He can make us whole too, if we let Him. ” Make no mistake, God will only knock so many times and not get an answer at the door. If man repeatedly rejects Christ, Christ will soon reject him.

Remember, Jesus went where He was Celebrated, not just tolerated. THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD FOR THESE REASONS And brother’s and sister’s, it’s time to get our houses in order, so when Jesus knocks again, you won’t be ashamed to open the door and let Him in. That’s really the issue at hand; being worthy of his call and visit.

The Lord Is My Shepherd

“The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name sake.

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me, your rod and your staff they comfort me. You prepare a table before me, in the presence of my enemies.

You anoint my head with oil, my cup overflows. Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.” Psalms 23



Whatever you do don’t give up on love or hurt yourself. No matter how bad the situation is God can bring you out.

Don’t be embarrassed about wanting to confirm whether you are in an abusive relationship. You are not alone. Unfortunately, sometimes we accept unacceptable behavior for so long, it starts to feel normal.

And, let me get this out here, Christian women are not immune to abusive relationships.

This post is not about the world and how it’s men treat women, as much as it’ s about how proclaimed men of God treat significant others.

Why do women keep abuse secret? Not only do they fear retribution for outing the abuser, sometimes they don’t see a way out. This where faith and God come in. Do you believe “you can do all things through God Who strengthens you?” Hopefully, you do. He is your way out!

living with abuse is insane, too surreal. Surely women of God know that everything about abuse is wrong. It doesn’t matter why an abuser attacks. The only thing that matters is that he or she laid hands on you. The thing to do is walk away not strike out.

If you relate to more than half of the 10 clues of an abused woman, you need to run. I don’t care if you’re a preacher, teacher, lawyer, doctor or garbage man. This life is not what God had planned for you, and he or she is not worth the price you’ll have to pay if you stay.

Husbands should not force wives to have sex…either.

Now don’t get this statement twisted with, times when you have sex with your husband and don’t feel like it. This is something totally different.


An example of a case fitting this profile is when a man physically subdues or forces you to give in to his sexual desires, regardless of your feelings.

Forced sex is rape, no matter who does it. Cruel or threatening words can also escalate to abuse, even if he never lays a hand on you. Verbal abuse is a precursor to emotional abuse, as well as a sign that a person will become physically violent.

Below is a list of possible signs of abuse. Every sign of abuse is not included in this list, only the most commonly ignored or obvious ones.

1. He has to know what you’re doing every second of your day

2. Always accusing you of cheating or stepping out on him

3. Discourages or outright refuses to let you see your family or friends

4. Has a problem with you furthering your education

5. Refuses to allow you to work outside of the home

6. Becomes angry with you after consuming alcohol or drugs

7. Controls your money

8. Decides what you can and cannot wear or eat

9. Humiliates you in front of others

10. Blames you for his anger

Because the following situations aren’t subtle by any means, they are not included in the 10 clues.

Additionally, these are more serious and when present, indicative of an advanced stage of domestic abuse or violence. If you can personally identify with any of two or more signs here you must seek help, escape immediately. Yes, it’s that serious… Continue reading “ABUSE: 10 CLUES YOU ARE AN ABUSED WOMAN”


Sleeping with a broken heart? I woke up this morning thinking about our children and how early they learn about evil. In some ways parents give in to their premature ascension into adulthood. The most disturbing aspect of this realization is that many don’t realize the error of their ways. Why are so many adults in a rush to make children grow up? Do we need to speed up the process of seeing horrible things adults shutter to even think about? Does your child have a broken heart, a beef with somebody or disdain for authority? More children have these problems than you may realize.  In fact, labeling the problem as an epidemic may be appropriate. The thing is, “child experts don’t seem to have answers either?” Some of their children suffer from these afflictions as well. So, whats a parent to do?


For single mothers problems associated with child-rearing may seem impenetrable. Many choose to give up, leaving the child to his or her own devices. Leaving children to their own devices is tantamount to child neglect. You see, not doing anything is taking the easy way out. Doing something even if it fails proves that love prevailed. How can you love someone and not try to save them if you see them drowning? Better yet, who allows somebody who cannot swim to walk into a body of water without throwing them a life jacket?  Surely not a mother!


Parents have power minimize broken hearts, squash beefs and reestablish parental authority. In the interim they protect their children from an early onset of emotional destruction and disruption. While the task may seem insurmountable, it’s possible and our responsibility. God help the child whose on his or her own, with no one. This is where extended family, friends, even strangers must come in. You never know when whatever it is you can do is a child’s last hope. Don’t be afraid to extend yourself beyond the comfort of your own space. If you don’t what can you tell God you’ve done for others?


Most will agree that children don’t ask to come here. That fact alone charges those responsible for bringing them into the world with a duty to protect them from undue physical and emotional harm, and, at all cost. This is what a parent does. They do these things naturally because they feel obligated. What parent would not give their own life for their child? Well, while most would, some would not. This may be hard to imagine for many but its the case.

Parents have the power to effectively intervene if they see signs of a child:

  1. Sleeping With a Broken Heart

It’s no secret that young people meet anxiety, depression, heartache triggered by premature exposure to situations that tug at the heart.  The good old days when childhood sweethearts made goo-goo eyes, held hands and cherished feeling all giddy are all but gone. These days it’s not unusual to hear children as young as eight talking about relationships, even sex. In error, some parents believe that there is no such thing as learning about having sex too young. Even worse, these people fail to understand that stolen innocence cannot be put back. Yes, having premature sex is here to stay, but, encouraging it by promoting the subject is not the answer. The village has the power to help preserve youthful innocence.

Having a broken heart is like being a broken crayon, it heals, still works and has the power to add color to an otherwise drab life.

Together we are stronger than any one person or group. While strategically denouncing the theft of childhood innocence won’t stamp it out it will cut instances. Almost every grown person on earth knows how it feels to sleep with a broken heart: no parent wants their child to know that feeling. Yet, too many already know what it feels like to be rejected, taken advantage of, loved and left. No child deserves to feel pain that only an adult can begin to comprehend.

  2. Having Beef With Somebody Forever

A months ago I happened upon a reality show while flipping channels, Love & Hip Hop, I think. Cardi B was speaking her piece. She said something in a scene that now has over 300 thousand YouTube views, “If a girl got beef with me, she got beef forever?” Cardi B is a natural, no-nonsense and 0% fake. Unlike many other ghetto bred pretty girls her urban flaws seem to work for her. She’s a girl that mainstream America hates to love in public. What many love about her is how she unapologetically, spanks haters verbally, and effectively. #Cardi B said, “she misses the hood, because in the hood she had two haters but now she has thousands.” Having beef with somebody forever can lead to “sleeping with a broken heart.”

So, I couldn’t stop myself from addressing her statement about having a #beef forever. Its bad enough to have a lifelong beef one or two people, but the thought of having ill feelings towards thousands is a heavy burden to carry. Harboring “beef” attributes to many anger management issues we see today. Whatever you refuse to let go of eventually becomes a part of you. That very thing you needed to rid yourself of inadvertently takes up space in your heart and head. The beef that started out as a controlled distraction transforms into cancerous chaos. Children shouldn’t have lifelong beefs with anybody. Teaching them how to forgive and why they should forgive is crucial in their spiritual and emotional growth.

   3. Showing Disdain for Authority

As far as reasons that lead to a child going astray, acting out, under-performing in school, “disdain for authority” may very well be the main culprit. Never would I have imagined that a day would come when figuring out who is the parent, and who is the child would be an issue. I don’t know how we can blame anyone other than ourselves for this apocalyptic failure in parenting. At some point, common sense forces us to own up to mistakes made to skirt dissension within family units. Sure, being a child’s equal is easier than being an authority figure, but is that what God instructed parents to do? No matter how you look at the dilemma, the answer is a resounding NO!

Having “Beef” with somebody forever invites “sleeping with a broken heart.” The fact that one cares so deeply that they would carry around a memory forever tugs at the heart.

Being a parent is hard, especially today. There are so many battles to fight throughout our children’s life. Many times we find ourselves choosing between battles so that we don’t get beat up so bad. Picking the wrong battle to ignore can bring about great regret as well as distress. There is a reason the Father tells us “the battle is not yours, it’s the Lord’s.” He doesn’t want us to decide which battle to ignore; the Father wants us to give them all to Him so that He can arm us with His shield. That child who has no respect for you is redeemable, if you are willing to take his or her demons to the Lord in prayer. Additionally, God expects us to acknowledge when demons exists as a result of something that we’ve done or did not do?

Parents have power, they can love, teach, lead and protect their offspring from harm. Disdain for authority invites early onset of emotional destruction. While the task to save a child may seem insurmountable, it’s possible and is our responsibility. Most will agree that children don’t ask to come here. That fact alone charges those responsible for bringing them into the world with a duty to protect them from undue physical and emotional harm, and, at all cost.

Does your child have a broken heart, a beef with somebody or disdain for authority? If yes, how are you addressing the problem?