“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 (NIV)
Happy Valentines Day to everybody. Any day that salutes love is a good day. The thing we must remember though is what Valentines Day represents as opposed to what it has become. Out of the 365 days in a year hopefully, Valentines Day is not the only day we find it necessary to show love. If it is, that means that there is not sufficient love where it belongs. My biggest pet-peeve about this day is the sheer essence of hypocrisy, fake love, denial and commercialization.
“Think about it? “If Cupid has been acting Stupid,” all year long, a Valentine’s Day gift or card does little to write such a wrong.”
In its brevity, Valentine’s Day temporarily infuses happiness and excitement into the lives of many women. Yes, I emphasized women because it is us who place special emphasis and expectations on Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day vendors would go broke if they had to depend on men without significant others to keep them in business. A woman’s heart is a powerful vessel.
While most women know very well whether relationships are sick or healthy, on Valentines Day they tend to ignore the truth and the obvious. Allowing those who have caused us unresolved, unapologetic pain to use Valentines Day as a symbol of love where love does not exist or is in need of an infusion insults God, who is Love.
When Valentine’s Day is over we return to our normal love lives, in hopes of seeing a renewed presence of whatever it is our hearts long to feel. Most will survive, some will heal but a significant number of broken hearts will stay that way laying in wait for the next Valentines Day as if they do not know that if “nothing changes, nothing changes.”
The relationship does not have to be perfect but it should at least be pleasing and practical where love is concerned.