Learning the difference between forgiving and forgetting can be quite arduous, even for believers. Depending on who we are, where we come from and what awaits us in life, because of where we come from, has a lot to do with the capacity to forgive and forget.
Only give heed to yourself and keep your soul diligently, so that you do not forget the things which your eyes have seen and they do not depart from your heart all the days of your life; but make them known to your sons and your grandsons. Deuteronomy 4:9
What I have determined based on history is “God never intended for people to forget their past, if He had, there would be no bible?” Therefore, it is absolutely necessary that we do not forget, but instead, learn from past mistakes as well as accomplishments. When we hear the phrase, “God put our past behind us for a reason, we should not misinterpret its true meaning.” Here the issue is not about merely recalling the past. Instead, it is about dwelling in the past, there is a remarkable difference! I pray often for strength to forgive those who have trespassed against me, as well as for forgiveness from those I may have violated in any manner. Sometimes I have to fight those battles with a heavy heart…..down on my knees.
Of David. Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name! Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s. Psalm 103: 1-22
Dwelling on the past is tantamount to sitting on a pity pot. In this instance, one is recalling the past for all the wrong reasons. The intent is not to grow but to decrease. You know what I mean, like, when it feels so good to feel so bad? Love can do that! It is one of those emotions that can make you do crazy things, like wanting to walk back the memory, at a time and place when love was good so you can cry about it! If you choose to inhabit heartbreak, there is no way you can move forward. That is dwelling in the past. There’s also such a thing as “dwelling on the past.” An example of dwelling in the past is “blaming your present situation on something that happened in the past.” The key word here is “blaming.”
I ran across the article below on Facebook yesterday, written by Frank West. Now I know I am not the only person, “who feels some kind of way” for President Obama and the First Family, because of what they have gone through. In error, some people say race relations got worse since President Obama’s been in office. Well, newsflash, that’s just not true. What really happened is, the ugliness of race relations just got more exposure, amplified and called out, because of who this Black man became. Racism has never been a thing of the past and has always been prevalent in America, way before President Obama and his parent was born. His legacy will hang on this present, which will one day become the past. How can we forget, better yet, how can anybody ask us to forget? And, why should we forget?