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LOVE GOD NOT THE WORLD


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“Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the father is not in him. For everything in the world, the Cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does-comes not from the father but from the world.” (1 John 2: 15-17)

I wonder if Jesus ever thinks “why is it so hard for my Father’s children to love me?”

Loving God and not the world should be easier said than done, “but God’s knows we have made this not the case.” Did you know that the world turns on non-believers too? Well, it does. If you do not believe me look around. How many non-Christians do you think are disenchanted with the world and what Satan who they think does not exist offered them in exchange for eternal life. That is all he wants, everybody else’s gift of salvation and eternal life.

The world via Satan produces and presents many different flavors of toxic eye candy, Seemingly, most are irresistible to a distinct majority even though adults know “too many sweets cause decay.” Somebody said the world is a ghetto, it can also describe as a large cavity on many levels. Nobody wants to carry the only brush designed to eradicate decomposition. As it may be, the general population seems to have come to accept systemic corrosion and eventual demonic demise.

I say that because hypocrisy is all the rage among far too many so-called believers. It’s spirit runs “amuck” between the church and world. Perhaps the godly are confused about what it means to “love God and not the world?” That would certainly explain how the contemporary church lost its way?

Is it possible to love God and not love His people?

Christians go there all the time “it’s impossible to love God yet hate your brother?”

But then they come back ignoring, toying and tampering with scripture. Let’s face it, running with Satan is the easiest workout in the world; but trying to walk with Jesus while heading down that path can only lead to a collision. Satan loves the world because he can sell people on every bad thing it has to offer. He knows how to make dirt look clean, ugly come off as pretty and a crooked path look straight.

Now do you see why it is impossible to love God and the world?

The world and its desires eventually pass away but the man who does the will of God lives forever…Do you believe that?

We can live just fine without Satan in our lives but not without God controlling where Satan lives….

Minister Neecy

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4 THINGS RELIGIOUS WEDDING VOWS MUST HAVE


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the four foundations of religious weddings are “union, love, honor, and submission”

Religious wedding vows?

“For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.” Ephesians 5: 25

Religious wedding vows differ from civil marriage vows. Couples wanting to express evidence of Christianity usually choose to recite religious wedding vows.

Writing one’s own wedding vows is not a sin, especially since the Bible does not offer an official abstract of ceremonial wedding vows penned for couples. What it does give is nonnegotiable elements of religious wedding vows. The following elements “union, love, honor, and submission” take precedence over all other wedding vow components.

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Hebrews 13: 14

Religious Wedding vows vary in structure as well as style. Many couples opt to write their own wedding vows to make sure personal touches apply.  Whether religious, civil, nonreligious, or primarily symbolic there is an increase in the number of couples who elect to pen their vows. Christians structure wedding vows to satisfy God’s sacred requirements. Perhaps the most important thing for a believer to remember when marrying is; “just its permitted doesn’t mean its acceptable in God’s sight.” Furthermore, while many choices are popular, not all decisions are beneficial, wholesome, or right.

THE DANGER IN DOING YOUR WAY

12″I have the right to do anything,” you say-but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”-but I will not be mastered by anything. 13 You say, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will destroy them both.” The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the LORD, and the LORD for the body. 14 By his power God raised the LORD from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” 17 But whoever is united with the LORD is one with him in spirit. 18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.” 1 Corinthians 6: 12-20

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4 Things Religious Wedding Vows Must Have

While many other elements makeup wedding vows, the four foundations religious wedding vows must haves; “union, love, honor, and submission” are neither optional or subject to debate. These foundations encompass the four most important principles of “religious wedding vows.”

“Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2: 24

RELIGIOUS OR CIVIL?

To understand the significance of structure found in biblical wedding vows couples must first acknowledge God as sovereign. They must submit to His plan as being the only way to enjoy a blessed, successful marriage.

“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8

Civil unions do not adhere to biblical order, and do not acknowledge scriptural based principles required to carry out ceremonies that close in holy matrimony. However, religious wedding vows do. Whether couples choose to have religious or civil wedding ceremonies the end-result is marriage. No human, regardless of religious affiliation, academic status, or pedigree can consider one wedding ceremony superior over another.

Keep your eyes on the prize, your heart open to change, and ears tuned sharply to the unspoken.

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4: 8

Beware of wedding officiate propaganda like “I’m a real reverend or credentialed minister, because every priest who molested children was as well? Essentially, none of this means anything. Christians should know this but even they fall prey to worldly sales pitches. Do not be misled!

“Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32

RELIGIOUS WEDDING VOWS ORDAINED BY GOD?

Getting back to the nucleus of this article we want to focus on what is important! That would be to follow the above referenced four principles when writing wedding vows. Wedding vows serve as somewhat of an insurance policy. Their principles should cover the principles most important to the Father, while instituting godly protocol.

18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2: 18

The institution of marriage is a replica of Christ and His church. Therefore, religious wedding vows must feature components of both human and spiritual size.

THE WORK OF GOD

“The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” 19 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2: 18-24

WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER

“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Genesis 1: 27-28

WOUNDS FROM A FRIEND CAN BE TRUSTED

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?” Ecclesiastes 4:9

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“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, …” Ephesians 5: 25-33

“Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.” Romans 13: 8

WHAT LOVE IS AND IS NOT

1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-5

UNBRIDLED LOVE MANSPLAINED

“If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13: 2

“Do everything in love.” 1 Corinthians 16: 14

“Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned.” Song of Solomon 8:7

“Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.” Psalm 143: 8

“Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.” Proverbs 3: 3-4

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4: 2

“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” John 15:12:

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1 Corinthians 13:13

“You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.” Song of Solomon 4:9:

UNSHAKABLE FAITH

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” Hebrews 10:24-25

THE POWER OF LOVE

“There are three things that amaze me—no, four things that I don’t understand: how an eagle glides through the sky, how a snake slithers on a rock, how a ship navigates the ocean, how a man loves a woman.” Proverbs 30:18-19
“No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.” 1 John 4:12

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10

TRUE LOVE AND DEVOTION

Ruth 1:16-17: “Entreat me not to leave you, or to turn back from following after you; For wherever you go, I will go; And wherever you lodge, I will lodge; Your people shall be my people, And your God, my God. Where you die, I will die, And there will I be buried. The Lord do so to me, and more also, If anything but death parts you and me.” Ruth 1:16-17

“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12: 10

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5: 21

“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7

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IS EMOTIONAL GARBAGE TAKING UP SPACE IN YOUR HEAD & HEART?


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Emotional Garbage? Believe it or not, you can evict emotional garbage from your head, heart and soul.

Inspiration Time

Happy Monday everyone….

It’s time for our Daily Inspiration

Scripture for today:

From the end of the earth I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed; Lead me to the rock that is higher than I. Psalm 61:2

“The sign of a cluttered mind is one that’s unable to make good decisions on a regular basis.”

Today is a good day to evict emotional garbage from your head, heart and soul.

Emotional garbage hibernates in dark places, flourishes in negative minds and has only one purpose, which is to destroy.

Preserving emotional garbage prevents you from elevating to a higher place, moving forward, looking at the positive and not the negative.

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We all have emotional garbage, but some people have excessive amounts.

The first step to clearing out emotional baggage turned garbage is to stop giving it your undivided attention. Instead, look to the Lord for solutions. Allow the Father to start His exhaustive but complete cleansing process. The Lord will remove every thought put there by the evil one. Whereas you may have failed at evicting everything bad the Father will not.

He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. Psalm 23: 3-4
There is no better day than today to de-clutter!

If you’ve experienced difficulty navigating through this maze called life perhaps it’s time to clear the clutter. Think about it, “there’s only so much we can do about situations that affect destiny? At the end of the day we must depend on God to usher us through.

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11: 28

Holding on to emotional clutter makes it look like we believe at some point, within our own power, that we can fix brokenness.  Emotional garbage contaminates the soul, leaves it empty. Eventually the stench chokes the life out of us.

Is emotional garbage taking up space in your head and heart?

If so, it could be hindering your spiritual or emotional growth!

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Fruits of My Labor| I Am the Seeds I’ve Planted


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“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6 NIV

Fruits of my labor show up in specific areas of my life. The most obvious one seems to be in how my children turned out, their children, even those not yet born.

Proper tending to, and regular watering yields good fruit. When Jesus spoke of “Good fruit” He was talking about people’s internal soul, spiritual character. To produce a good crop one must work the field. Hands get dirty when we work fields, get can rough, and sometimes you sweat. To produce good fruit you have to exert energy both physically and spiritually,

Another thing, expecting something good to come out of something you’ve neglected is wishful thinking at best.

Children can be compared to crops, fields, and gardens; they need tending too, spiritual water and nourishing food to grow. They are fruits of my labor and yours. Like soil that produces fruit, and vegetation our children need somebody willing to work on them. To raise up physically, emotionally, and spiritually healthy offspring we must engage, work on and with them constantly.

In fact, a living parents job is never done. Once I heard a late uncle say, “no matter how old you get I’ll still be (30) years older than you. My uncle’s statement provoked me to look at the big picture of “a parent’s job.”

In my uncle’s own wise but sarcastic way, he was saying that kids will always be kids to their parents. More importantly, my uncle was reminding me to never disrespect him no matter how old I got. Being fruit of my parent’s labor disrespecting elders was not in my nature. I am the product of parents who did not tolerate disrespect, disobedience or laziness.

To see a reward in the fruits of my labor I must work hard. Satan tries to convince us otherwise; he wants mothers and fathers to forfeit parental responsibility, and leave God’s children to their own devices. We see evidence of this every minute of the day, and it’s heartbreaking.

Don’t let Satan fool you. Try your best to sow good seed during your lifetime, individually as well as through your children. That way, when your life is over, the Lord will say “well done my child.”

Like most of us, children won’t always do what we tell them to, as a child or as an adult.

Sometimes, the only option parents have to enjoy peace of mind is believing God for what He said He would do. Having faith is the only way to carry out this mission.

Raising a child up in the way he should go? The task at hand is to do it even when signs of resistance arise. The idea is, “one day he or she will remember what you taught them, how they were raised, and how you behaved as an adult.

Parents are the most powerful example in the world of what a child will eventually end up being? Let’s face it. Most parents can take credit for modeling behavior most children wind up imitating. Parents also inadvertently formulate words and conversations in the mouths of their offspring.

I don’t know about you, but the last thing I want on my conscience is feeling responsible for my child’s major failures. Making mistakes is a given, knowing how to avoid repeating the same mistakes is a different thing. A fool doesn’t know he’s a fool, but other people do. A child may not know his actions are foolish, unless he or she can compare foolishness to outcomes resulting from making good decisions. That’s where mothers and fathers come in. A parent’s most important assignment is “raising a child up in the way he should go is the way to go!”

My grandmother used to say, “when a mother is rocking her baby she doesn’t know if she’s rocking a blessing or a curse.” While some parents believe in error that status, fame or fortune can define a child’s destiny, believers know this is not the case.

The flourishing of sin is the product of neglected fields, fruits of contaminated water, seed hastily sown. God wants us to take our time planting His seeds, put them in the ground right, so they grow and multiply. To grow and multiply, seeds must take root. To take root they need water, and again, they must be tended too.

The Lord wants us to reap good things. “To do that, we must do a better job selecting seed, determining placement, watering crops on a regular basis. And, the water needs to be fresh, pure, free of contaminates.

Minister Neecy

 

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FAVOR DISGUISED AS FRICTION| Be on the Lookout


Favor Disguised as Friction| Be on the Lookout

Recognizing blessings is an art; and sadly, some people just don’t have the skills. For some reason, many of God‘s children choose to focus on what they don’t have, instead of what they do have. And they simply refuse to look for ways to turn lemons into lemonade.

Be on the lookout for “Favor disguised as friction, “favor is not always distinguishable for what it is. I’ll be the first to admit, “sometimes favor is difficult to recognize when you have to go through trials and tribulation to receive it.”

Believing that God is in control is the only way to see favor for what it is.

BE ON THE LOOKOUT FOR FAVOR DISGUISED AS FRICTION

Finding the positive in a negative situation is the first step to seeing what God has planned for your life. When I accepted the Lord as my Savior He showed me how to make the best out of worst case scenarios.

That’s a gift man can’t give! You never want to forget times when the Lord gave you a vision, an ability to make something out of nothing, and a way out of what looked like no way.

FORGIVE ME FOR NOT FORGIVING YOU

Favor is God’s gift to those who make Him Head. With favor comes an ability to recognize that life is only as good as you allow the Lord to make it. Turning life’s lemons to lemonade is a not only skill it’s a God-given gift.

Since I’ve been out of work I’ve had some time to think about the next phase of my life. Although I have no crystal ball I do have an idea where I’m headed this time. This time, my path is already laid out. Jesus went before me.

While encountering stumbling blocks is a given, this time, if I fall, I know and believe with all my heart that God will pick me up.

BE ON THE LOOKOUT FOR FAVOR DISGUISED AS FRICTION

And guess what? “I’m good with that!” Looking back to when I got the dreaded call in July of 2013, I’m reminded of how the call made me feel. My heart stopped, my stomach turned.  Continue reading “FAVOR DISGUISED AS FRICTION| Be on the Lookout”

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BROKEN CRAYONS STILL COLOR: PICK UP THE PIECES


 

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Sleeping with a broken heart? I woke up this morning thinking about our children and how early they learn about evil. In some ways parents give in to their premature ascension into adulthood. The most disturbing aspect of this realization is that many don’t realize the error of their ways. Why are so many adults in a rush to make children grow up? Do we need to speed up the process of seeing horrible things adults shutter to even think about? Does your child have a broken heart, a beef with somebody or disdain for authority? More children have these problems than you may realize.  In fact, labeling the problem as an epidemic may be appropriate. The thing is, “child experts don’t seem to have answers either?” Some of their children suffer from these afflictions as well. So, whats a parent to do?

BROKEN CRAYONS STILL COLOR: PICK UP THE PIECES

For single mothers problems associated with child-rearing may seem impenetrable. Many choose to give up, leaving the child to his or her own devices. Leaving children to their own devices is tantamount to child neglect. You see, not doing anything is taking the easy way out. Doing something even if it fails proves that love prevailed. How can you love someone and not try to save them if you see them drowning? Better yet, who allows somebody who cannot swim to walk into a body of water without throwing them a life jacket?  Surely not a mother!

WOUNDS FROM A FRIEND CAN BE TRUSTED

Parents have power minimize broken hearts, squash beefs and reestablish parental authority. In the interim they protect their children from an early onset of emotional destruction and disruption. While the task may seem insurmountable, it’s possible and our responsibility. God help the child whose on his or her own, with no one. This is where extended family, friends, even strangers must come in. You never know when whatever it is you can do is a child’s last hope. Don’t be afraid to extend yourself beyond the comfort of your own space. If you don’t what can you tell God you’ve done for others?

MISSING CHILDREN FAST FACTS

Most will agree that children don’t ask to come here. That fact alone charges those responsible for bringing them into the world with a duty to protect them from undue physical and emotional harm, and, at all cost. This is what a parent does. They do these things naturally because they feel obligated. What parent would not give their own life for their child? Well, while most would, some would not. This may be hard to imagine for many but its the case.

Parents have the power to effectively intervene if they see signs of a child:

  1. Sleeping With a Broken Heart

It’s no secret that young people meet anxiety, depression, heartache triggered by premature exposure to situations that tug at the heart.  The good old days when childhood sweethearts made goo-goo eyes, held hands and cherished feeling all giddy are all but gone. These days it’s not unusual to hear children as young as eight talking about relationships, even sex. In error, some parents believe that there is no such thing as learning about having sex too young. Even worse, these people fail to understand that stolen innocence cannot be put back. Yes, having premature sex is here to stay, but, encouraging it by promoting the subject is not the answer. The village has the power to help preserve youthful innocence.

Having a broken heart is like being a broken crayon, it heals, still works and has the power to add color to an otherwise drab life.

Together we are stronger than any one person or group. While strategically denouncing the theft of childhood innocence won’t stamp it out it will cut instances. Almost every grown person on earth knows how it feels to sleep with a broken heart: no parent wants their child to know that feeling. Yet, too many already know what it feels like to be rejected, taken advantage of, loved and left. No child deserves to feel pain that only an adult can begin to comprehend.

  2. Having Beef With Somebody Forever

A months ago I happened upon a reality show while flipping channels, Love & Hip Hop, I think. Cardi B was speaking her piece. She said something in a scene that now has over 300 thousand YouTube views, “If a girl got beef with me, she got beef forever?” Cardi B is a natural, no-nonsense and 0% fake. Unlike many other ghetto bred pretty girls her urban flaws seem to work for her. She’s a girl that mainstream America hates to love in public. What many love about her is how she unapologetically, spanks haters verbally, and effectively. #Cardi B said, “she misses the hood, because in the hood she had two haters but now she has thousands.” Having beef with somebody forever can lead to “sleeping with a broken heart.”

So, I couldn’t stop myself from addressing her statement about having a #beef forever. Its bad enough to have a lifelong beef one or two people, but the thought of having ill feelings towards thousands is a heavy burden to carry. Harboring “beef” attributes to many anger management issues we see today. Whatever you refuse to let go of eventually becomes a part of you. That very thing you needed to rid yourself of inadvertently takes up space in your heart and head. The beef that started out as a controlled distraction transforms into cancerous chaos. Children shouldn’t have lifelong beefs with anybody. Teaching them how to forgive and why they should forgive is crucial in their spiritual and emotional growth.

   3. Showing Disdain for Authority

As far as reasons that lead to a child going astray, acting out, under-performing in school, “disdain for authority” may very well be the main culprit. Never would I have imagined that a day would come when figuring out who is the parent, and who is the child would be an issue. I don’t know how we can blame anyone other than ourselves for this apocalyptic failure in parenting. At some point, common sense forces us to own up to mistakes made to skirt dissension within family units. Sure, being a child’s equal is easier than being an authority figure, but is that what God instructed parents to do? No matter how you look at the dilemma, the answer is a resounding NO!

Having “Beef” with somebody forever invites “sleeping with a broken heart.” The fact that one cares so deeply that they would carry around a memory forever tugs at the heart.

Being a parent is hard, especially today. There are so many battles to fight throughout our children’s life. Many times we find ourselves choosing between battles so that we don’t get beat up so bad. Picking the wrong battle to ignore can bring about great regret as well as distress. There is a reason the Father tells us “the battle is not yours, it’s the Lord’s.” He doesn’t want us to decide which battle to ignore; the Father wants us to give them all to Him so that He can arm us with His shield. That child who has no respect for you is redeemable, if you are willing to take his or her demons to the Lord in prayer. Additionally, God expects us to acknowledge when demons exists as a result of something that we’ve done or did not do?

Parents have power, they can love, teach, lead and protect their offspring from harm. Disdain for authority invites early onset of emotional destruction. While the task to save a child may seem insurmountable, it’s possible and is our responsibility. Most will agree that children don’t ask to come here. That fact alone charges those responsible for bringing them into the world with a duty to protect them from undue physical and emotional harm, and, at all cost.

Does your child have a broken heart, a beef with somebody or disdain for authority? If yes, how are you addressing the problem?

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DISCOVER YOUR SPIRITUAL GIFTS IN 15 MINUTES


DISCOVER YOUR SPIRITUAL GIFTS IN 15 MINUTES

Spiritual Gifts

“She said to her husband, “Behold now, I perceive that this is a holy man of God passing by us continually. Please, let us make a little walled upper chamber and let us set a bed for him there, and a table and a chair and a lampstand; and it shall be, when he comes to us, that he can turn in there.” 2 Kings 4: 9-10″

In the New Testament, one of my favorite Bible stories is about the Shunamite Woman and her godly-exhibit of hospitality toward the Prophet Elisha. She had remembered his kindness toward her in the past. When an opportunity arose, she went out of her way to be hospitable. God blessed the Shunamite Woman with the Spiritual gift of hospitality. Making others feel comfortable came natural to her. She didn’t have to take lessons to do what God had already charged her to do.

How will you use your gifts to glorify God and accomplish His will here on earth? 

Realizing God made me special was the first step toward understanding my purpose in life. The kind of “special” that comes from the Lord is not comprised of arrogance, pride or love of self. To identify true spiritual gifts, we must search the soul, which is the mothership of the spirit.

I will continue to use my gifts to glorify God by giving my time, wisdom, and compassion until I leave this earth. Spiritual gifts do not have an expiration date on them,  God expects us to spend our lives carrying out His will. It doesn’t take long to figure out what your spiritual gifts are. Discover spiritual gifts by taking a Spiritual Gifts test, that’s what I did even though I thought I knew already. Taking the Spiritual Gifts Test revealed godly attributes that I didn’t know I had. Godly attributes are different from worldly attributes, which often reflect self-centeredness. The attributes God gave us are designed to bless other people.

Time Sensitive Scriptures that Examine Quality of Life

One’s life is the most proof of how God’s gifts are used. Giving back to obey the Lord’s will is how I use my gifts. I was a therapeutic foster parent for five years, when my daughter was in high school. Prior to that, I fostered two sisters when she was a toddler. Back then I didn’t know much about nor understand Spiritual gifts but I knew a lot about loving others.

I used to facilitate support groups in prison settings, worked with homeless women, to help them stabilize their lives. So, about the gift. When I first went into the prison and was not nervous about how I would be received I recognized that God was with me on that journey. I had not practiced how I would introduce myself, or what I would say to the inmates but I still had much to say. The Lord spoke to me. My gift of compassion allowed me to be a witness for God.

Gifts from God are a beautiful expression of His love. I love-making other people feel welcome, better than they felt before we crossed paths, especially if they are struggling spiritually or emotionally.

I am really good at that but not because of anything that I can take credit for. Being able to comfort another in need is a gift. Everybody can’t do it. The reason? You must care about other people. The ability to care manifests from the heart.

Knowing my calling is the greatest earthly gift that I could ever receive from God. If I did not know my calling or purpose, my life would be a waste. Basically, I would be going “to and fro” like Satan wants all of God’s children to do.

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“She said to her husband, “Behold now, I perceive that this is a holy man of God passing by us continually. Please, let us make a little walled upper chamber and let us set a bed for him there, and a table and a chair and a lampstand; and it shall be, when he comes to us, that he can turn in there.” 2 Kings 4: 9-10″

 

In the New Testament, one of my favorite Bible stories is about the Shunamite Woman and her godly-exhibit of hospitality toward the Prophet Elisha. She had remembered his kindness toward her in the past. When an opportunity arose, she went out of her way to be hospitable

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KLU KLUX KLAN TURNED PRIEST SHOULD THE FAMILY FORGIVE?


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More on forgiveness; timing of this article could not be better. The question posed in the title targets the subject of forgiveness. “Klu Klux klan turned priest, should the family forgive?” Over the last week I’ve been thinking about the subject of forgiveness. Should we or shouldn’t we forgive is not the question. Christians must forgive each other. However, while I understand the struggle this family faces when trying to forgive a Klansman turned priest, I know they can not move forward unless the spirit of malice is laid to rest.

“Luke 17:3-4 says, Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, “I repent”, you must forgive him.” Luke 17: 3-4

Furthermore, it is important for people to understand that forgiving and forgetting are two different things. God does not command us to forget but He does charge us to forgive. In fact, God wants his children to remember events of the past so they can use them to make better decisions in the future and not error in ways their parents did.

Priest Rev. William Aitcheson, and former Klansmen sent a handwritten letter to Phillip and Barbara Butler in September. The Reverend  said he “sincerely regrets the suffering he caused” in January 1977, when he burned a cross in front of their College Park, Maryland, home.” Read the entire NBC article below.

The Klansman turned priest seems genuinely remorseful, but there are problems with the way his remorse played out. Additionally, while signs of sound sincerity seem clear today, the victimized family is more concerned about how he became a priest in the first place. For many people of color the story is yet another one depicting evidence of “White privilege. How do we move forward when the past forges ahead meeting no resistance? Rev Aitcheson is not the first man to change his life by turning to God. The thing is, turning to God means bearing your soul, coming out of the dark. As the case may be, not coming completely out of the dark may be the Reverend’s worst mistake. The lack of transparency brings about distrust. God is the Lord of Light? Not knowing is living in darkness a place God does not dwell.

“Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 8:12

To this day, the convoluted fundamentals of institutional racism reckons with force. Moving forward often means whitewashing the dark days. We see it in schools where text books have been rewritten to soften the blow of slavery. In error some textbooks portray slaves as immigrants. Immigrants came to America voluntarily, slaves did not.

Some people worry about the legitimacy of the Bible yet have no problem with the illigitimacy of some American or , African-American history facts. I can’t help but wonder “what would Jesus say?” What will Jesus say about people intentionally pretending that an oppressed people just woke up one morning feeling hopeless for no reason at all?

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FORGIVE ME FOR NOT FORGIVING YOU


For Christians forgiving is not an option its a given. How can you say you love your brother and sister, while harboring ill feelings toward them at the same time? I’m not saying it’s easy to forgive, I’m just saying it’s necessary.

Are you in or are you out? Perfecting the art of forgiving others takes a lot of love. Furthermore, the word Forgive is such an important act that the word appears in both the New Testament and Old Testament many times. Why is this important? Well, every important event, word, or admission in the Bible appears more than once. Basically, we learn by repetition. The more we read about something, hear about something, or do a thing; the more likely we are to remember and internalize the occasion.

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Don’t be too proud to say “forgive me for not forgiving you.” Matthew 18:21-22 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.(NIV)

Should you find yourself struggling with forgiving another don’t be dismayed, it happens. Sadly our imperfections often make it difficult for us to tolerate imperfections of others. Speaking from experience,

However, don’t let that be an excuse to forgo God’s directions for living right, which include having a forgiving spirit. Don’t be too proud to say “forgive me for not forgiving you.”

Acquiring an ability to forgive can take time but with patience and determination coupled with God’s grace. Believers have the capacity to forgive.  Just as the Father purges so should His children.

“And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns. (NLT)” Philippians 1:6

I had to learn that forgiving must never be predicated upon whether another forgives first. In fact, there will be times when forgiving another won’t necessarily bring about reconciliation, or reciprocation.

Sometimes we forgive because it’s the right thing to do to move on. Holding on to anger, and resentment makes it impossible to truly forgive. No matter how many times we ask a person to forgive us, unless we do so expecting nothing in return, the act of forgiveness is less than genuine.

“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (NIV) Colossians 3:13

Therefore, as imperfect human beings God commands us to forgive others. Knowing that we need Jesus to help us carry out His will for us to forgive others is key to promoting a forgiving spirit.

If you truly believe God when He says, “the battle is not yours it’s His” then forgiving others comes natural albeit difficult at times. Forgive your brother as God forgave you? Sound familiar? It should!

An inability to forgive another is a burden, one that should be given to Jesus. Because He knows our weaknesses, intentions and motives He can destroy any unhealthy spirits that cause us to stumble.

The Father longs to prepare our hearts to forgive others as He has forgiven us.

It is at that moment we see ourselves as one in the same,  in need of forgiveness, imperfect, fragile, a broken vessel. He even shows us that we need to ask Him for forgiveness, every chance we get.

Again don’t be too proud to say “forgive me for not forgiving you.”

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While traveling through this life be assured that a time will come when fighting with the spirit of forgiveness takes its toll. During these times we must look to the Lord. Having a spirit of discernment equips us to recognize and understand that people all over the world need to be forgiven for something. We meet some of them in places we never imagined. God prepares us ahead of time by going before us preparing those in need of forgiveness to dismiss from the mind anything that would hinder His messenger.

To successfully carry out God’s will our hearts must exude a spirit of forgiveness, accompanied by a pure loving want to leave someone else better off spiritually and emotionally than we found them .

Can you think of a person you need to forgive?

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If I Should Die and I Know I Will


“Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we will all be changed.” 1 Corinthians 15:51

If I should die, and while one day I will, this post is not about death? Instead it is about a song recorded by Marvin Gaye, entitled “If I should Die.”

In error I believed navigating my sister’s passing would be easier considering my voluminous experience in dealing with the death of love-ones. “Boy, was I wrong.” However, I did find solace in knowing she knew Jesus intimately. As a believer, I know how precious being saved is.

You know, “no matter how many funerals one attends the grieving process faithfully carries out it’s business of wrenching hearts.” After losing one sister some would be inclined to believe that overcoming the sting of any future events of cessation would be a walk in the park. Not! If I should die, and of course someday I will, my hope is for somebody to think about me in this way. To understand, you must listen to the song.

“For none of us lives to himself, and none of us dies to himself. For if we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord. So then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord’s. For to this end Christ died and lived again, that he might be Lord both of the dead and of the living.” Romans 14:7-8

Take it from me, “every loss of life has the potential be as diabolical as the first if not more.” There is just no such thing as getting used to death. Sure, we know living forever is not an option, yet, living life as though we will live for ever is not uncommon.

As painful as death is, sometimes it can breath new life into hearts. Loss provokes people to search within. It encourages the grieved to pick up the pieces to look for reasons to carry on in spite of. The amazing thing about taking a closer look at the life of those who bid us farewell is how we inadvertently do so while managing not to judge. Perhaps the sting of death teaches the living at least one important lesson in life. The lesson in my opinion is that life is too short to waste on adjudicating activities of others. Live and let live, unless living the life you live threatens the spiritual health, happiness, welfare or security of another. Should the latter be the case, then of course change is in order.

Have you felt the thrill of feeling your world stand still, your dreams come true? Are you one of those who never will? It does not have to be that way. When you appreciate God’s goodness He makes your dreams come true even if it means making the world stand still.

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My sisters were free spirits. They lived the life they loved. I feel comfortable saying that I believe they had few regrets. By all accounts both went out of their way helping others when they could and did it out of love, never expecting anything in return. Mom was the same way. The oldest of eight, mom had a natural want to care for others outside of her immediate family circle. We learned from the best. Dad had a giving heart as well.

 

“So we are always of good courage. We know that while we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord, for we walk by faith, not by sight. Yes, we are of good courage, and we would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord.” 2 Corinthians 5: 6-8

So, yesterday I was listening to old school songs while watching YouTube videos. I ran across an “oldie but goodie.” The song title? “If I Should Die,” sung by Marvin Gaye. I have always loved the song but this time it tugged at my heart. As I listened to the lyrics I felt tears assembling in my eyes. It became obvious to me that I was still grieving. The song is not only beautiful, it is adaptable to a multitude of situations that tug at the heart. It’s lyrics lay way for listener’s to find hidden gems buried in lost loved ones. The reason for loss is less important than the when or why? ‘If I Should Die’ is about expressing heartfelt gratitude after the loved one is gone. Nobody plans to give accolades after people pass away, yet many find themselves doing just that.

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Marvin Gaye – If I Should Die Tonight

Lyrics
Oh, If I should die tonight
Oh baby, it would be far before my time
I won’t die blue, sugar yeah
‘Cause I’ve known you

Oooh, oh, how many eyes
Have seen their dream
Oh, how many arms
Have felt their dream

How many hearts, baby…
Have felt their world stand still
Millions never, they never never
And millions never will baby
They never will

If I should die tonight love
Darlin’, it would be far before my time
I won’t die blue
‘Cause I’ve known you

Oooh, oh, I’m thankful that you’re lovin’ me
My one desire
Is to love you ’til
I’m no longer here and never tire

You always been so good to me
I’m so thankful

Oooh, oh, how many eyes
Have seen their dream
How many arms
Have felt their dream
How many hearts, oh darlin’
Have felt their world stand still

Oh Lord!
Millions never, no, never
And millions never will, sugar
They never will

If I should die tonight, ahhh baby
I just want you to keep this thought in mind
That I would never die blue…
‘Cause I’ve known you
Oooh!!

Songwriters: Ed Townsend / Marvin Gaye / Marvin P Gaye
If I Should Die Tonight lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

 

 

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God Will Only Take Your Baggage if You Give it to Him


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Good morning family and friends…

Are you feeling overwhelmed, disappointed, or pessimistic about like life? If the answer is yes, you must be holding on to things, people or places that are not good for you. 
Remember, God does not take away baggage you refuse to part with. He will not take it unless you freely give it up! In other words, you have to be willing to let go.

Can you? The unhealthy relationship? The addiction? The lying, cheating and sharp tongue are just a few of many ungodly situations and actions that separate us from Christ. The Father wants us to know that He will take them from you if you ask Him too.

I don’t know about you but “yours truly” has been guilty of holding on too long to things that do nothing to enhance the spiritual or overall quality of life. Why do people do that? Could it be because “old habits are hard to break?” Whatever the reason, at the end of the day, holding on to baggage that only manifested of self-destructive dead weight is a recipe for demise.

Sometimes we need to woman or man-up, to get to a point in our lives where not letting go is no longer an option.

Minister Neecy

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Temptation: Do Not Put the Lord your God to the Test


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“5 Then the devil took him to the holy city and placed him on the pinnacle of the temple, 6 saying to him, “If you are the Son of God, throw yourself down; for it is written, ‘He will command his angels concerning you,’ and ‘On their hands they will bear you up, so that you will not dash your foot against a stone.’”

7 Jesus said to him, “Again it is written, ‘Do not put the Lord your God to the test.’”
Matthew 4:5-7 (NIV)

Matthew 4:57 appears to embody dual, and crucial messages. The first, and possibly most important element of interpretation here seems to be that Satan even tested Jesus who is perfect. Perhaps this part of scripture is a forewarning from God implying that we too will be tested during our lifetime. Part two of this scriptural interpretation makes note of the fact that, “the devil knows scripture too!” Christians must not be fooled by people who recite scripture but live lives indicative of one who does not know Jesus. Matthew also points out that Satan took Jesus to the holy city to test Him, using Jesus’s own scripture against him, or so he thought. Satan is evil, and although he is unable to comprehend scripture, he is an expert at reciting it.

Satan did not stop trying to encourage people to prove their relationship with God when he failed at temptation. Jesus on the pinnacle of the temple. In fact, he works around the clock successfully tempting many lost souls today. The reason for the devil’s success is that so many people do not have a strong, solid, relationship with the Father. Satan is the master manipulator, so good some believe he does not exist? However, if he did not exist, we would not need God’s Word, His grace or salvation. “ Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. 5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:4-9

I think it is important to point out that even though Satan appeared without notice, ready to inflict the spirit of temptation on Jesus; Jesus was prepared and therefore did not fall for his misinterpretation of Scripture. Having His Father’s Word hidden in His heart made it possible for Jesus to refute Satan’s misinterpretation of Psalm 91:11-12. Also, Matthew adds to his teaching moment in the above scripture by illustrating how Jesus defended His Father’s Word, which was by knowing the Word for himself. When we know scripture for ourselves it is impossible for anybody to feed us false doctrine. “Scripture calls itself much more desirable than gold and sweeter than honey.” (Psalm 19:10)

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HAPPY VALENTINES DAY WITH LOVE


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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 (NIV)

Happy Valentines Day to everybody. Any day that salutes love is a good day. The thing we must remember though is what Valentines Day represents as opposed to what it has become. Out of the 365 days in a year hopefully, Valentines Day is not the only day we find it necessary to show love. If it is, that means that there is not sufficient love where it belongs. My biggest pet-peeve about this day is the sheer essence of hypocrisy, fake love, denial and commercialization.

“Think about it? “If Cupid has been acting Stupid,” all year long, a Valentine’s Day gift or card does little to write such a wrong.”

In its brevity, Valentine’s Day temporarily infuses happiness and excitement into the lives of many women. Yes, I emphasized women because it is us who place special emphasis and expectations on Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day vendors would go broke if they had to depend on men without significant others to keep them in business. A woman’s heart is a powerful vessel.

While most women know very well whether relationships are sick or healthy, on Valentines Day they tend to ignore the truth and the obvious.  Allowing those who have caused us unresolved, unapologetic pain to use Valentines Day as a symbol of love where love does not exist or is in need of an infusion insults God, who is Love.

When Valentine’s Day is over we return to our normal love lives, in hopes of seeing a renewed presence of whatever it is our hearts long to feel. Most will survive, some will heal but a significant number of broken hearts will stay that way laying in wait for the next Valentines Day as if they do not know that if “nothing changes, nothing changes.”

The relationship does not have to be perfect but it should at least be pleasing and practical where love is concerned.

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IF I COULD LIVE MY LIFE ALL OVER AGAIN I COULD NOT CHANGE A THING?


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When I was younger I would often say “if I could live my life all over again, 
I would do things differently.” But guess what? I no longer believe that. 
In fact, today I believe, if I could live my life all over again, I would 
live it the exact same way. How would I know to do anything any different?
Everything I know about life today stems from experience I happened upon,
along the way. So, when an older person tells you that "experience is the 
best teacher, believe it!" There are somethings you can never truly understand,
unless you acquaint yourself with the matter of contention.

Experience is the best teacher in the world, and while we as parents would like to provide our off-spring with short-cuts, it’s just not possible. Good training may help them minimize the amount of stumbling blocks they encounter, but, will never eliminate them.

Wouldn’t it be cool, if we could buy experience or even wisdom for that matter, you know like, when people buy hair, breast implants, shoes, clothes or the like? Of course, it would be, but it’s just not possible. Though man would have some believe store-bought sense equates wisdom and experience, it’s just not true.

Experience is so precious its value cannot be calculated. But you can calculate the value of human knowledge? The reason personal experience is worth it’s weight in gold, is because, not only can’t you but it, you can’t read about it, or master it before hand either. Let’s be real, “store-bought sense is no comparison to experience. As priceless as experience is, there is something even more valuable. Wisdom! Wisdom comes from God. Man can teach humans how to become wise, the can show some how to become smart….but God has the only key to wisdom.

Everything I’ve experienced in my life proved to be a lesson. Though youth often blinded me during times of trouble, in the end, maturity prepared me for the battle ahead as well as for life’s many bloopers. Each time I had to go through something a second or third time, I handled the situation better than I had the first time. That’s learning, that’s progress and that’s growth.

I don’t want to go back, not ever. Actually, it would be too much work. God didn’t bring me this far, to see me turn around and go back where He brought me from…I want to go places I’ve never been, do things I’ve never done and tell every body I meet about what the Lord has done for me!

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The Equally Yoked Debate Will Blow Your Mind: It Did Mine!


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The longer we live the wiser we become, if we believe, chose to follow the Lord by obeying his word and humble ourselves. Looking back over my life, I can’t help but recognize times when I allowed worldly wisdom instead of God’s wisdom to prevail in my life. If you don’t have a true relationship with God it’s easy to confuse worldly wisdom with God’s wisdom. Religious leaders and believers get caught up in embracing worldly wisdom just like non-believers do. They get caught up because God is not the Head in their life, sadly for many they don’t even know it. This happens when we listen to a boatload of people throughout life telling us things like, “you are in control of your life, you don’t need nobody but yourself, the world revolves around you,  you deserve to be happy by any means necessary, and God intended for you to be rich. Last, but certainly not least not understanding what equally yoked means can destroy relationships that could have survived. I am not saying that it is wrong when you chose a spouse to make sure you’re equally yoked.  I’m just saying that the true meaning of “equally yoked” is often misunderstood.

No matter how simple God makes it, for some reason we complicate it. As Christians we should know hands-down “we are not in control of our life, because God is.”

Additionally, we need each other, God made it that way. If this were not the case, the Lord would not have created a mate for Adam.  It’s important to understand that Adam’s mate (Eve) was not just any mate. She was created from Adam’s rib. The equally yoked factor began there. You see first there was a direct correlation between the two, which was Adam’s rib. God made woman from a man so they would be as one. However, in today’s world believer’s and non-believers alike have re-defined equally yoked; stripping it of all spiritual components. They define equally yoked as “having stuff in common, like going to church, neither smoke?” The bible speaks of “two kinds of wisdom;” once you truly understand them you will truly understand God’s definition of equally yoked. See James 3:13

TWO KINDS OF WISDOM DEFINE EQUALLY YOKED

A few months ago I overheard an older woman talking to another woman about a young woman’s marital situation. She said the young woman had moved from one state to another, leaving her husband behind. It seems that originally the young woman’s husband had moved to the new state with the wife. However, once he got there he didn’t like it, so he went back to their hometown. He visits the his wife periodically. The young woman goes to church, but I don’t know if her husband goes or not. During the conversation, the older woman made a statement about the young woman’s marital situation. She said “the problem with the marriage was that the young woman and her husband were not equally yoked.” It was obvious the woman was insenuating that the wife was the prize, or the Christian in the relationship. Now my first thought was, “is she saying the couple was not equally yoked because the young woman goes to church and maybe her husband does not? The young woman had 3 children by three different men, and one marriage under her belt which means that both people had room to work on yoking. I wondered how the woman could be so certain the two were not equally yoked? Expecting something from another you can’t give in return if asked can be considered as living in a fool’s paradise. The question becomes; are you any better than your mate if your life is in need of an overhaul? In this case both people are scarred and broken. Really, just because a person goes to church doesn’t make them a prized possession.

This is what the bible says about equally yoked. Notice going to church is not mentioned, and in my opinion, there’s a good reason for that. Obviously, you have to do more than going to church for God to consider you worthy of salvation. Of course, in grave error, people who go to church on a regular basis consider themselves worthy all the time but that’s what living in spiritual darkness does, it blinds you to truth.

  • “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” II Corinthians 6:14:

    (New International Version–NIV) In this passage, Paul was writing to the church at Corinth. He was talking about believers and non-believers in general.

  • About marriage itself; Ephesians 5:25-27: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the Word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.”Ephesians 5:25-27: (NIV) If this scripture doesn’t prove God values women then I just don’t know which one would!

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The Purpose of Mountains That Won’t Move 


 

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“I concluded that it is worthwhile for people to find joy in their accomplishments, because that is their inheritance, since who can see what will exist after them?”

Ecclesiastes 3:22

When God is telling you don’t move but a sense of urgency to make tracks overpowers you be still, have faith; know that the Lord stands when you sit. Be patient, wherever the Lord is sending you He has already gone before you, to pave the way over the mountain. There will be moments when the clock stops while the world keeps moving but don’t let those the sequence of events confuse you. Your job is not to ask why, when or where. during these time you must proceed with because comprehending the fate of your immediate plight requires a willingness to face demons head on. Mountains appear in the lives of those who repeatedly ignore boundaries. However, God doesn’t erect mountains to block your view; He places them there to watch you rise to the occasion and climb.

Minister Neecy😇

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Does the World Know You know Jesus?


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Good morning everyone…..

It’s a New Week that started with  two old problems. 1. “The Christian” The world does not know us because it does not know Jesus. 1 John 3:1. 

2. “We love the world and resist God’s Word.” Ask the Lord to unchain your heart; free your mind today, tomorrow may be too late.

In case you have not noticed the bar for determining the height of Christianity has been lowered. That is not a good thing. As believers, our job is to raise it by example. People in need of a kind word should not have to wait until you turn aound so they can read a sign on your back that proclaims “I am a Christian.” Your actions should always speak louder than words!

Minister Neecy

 

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God’s Timing


 

Good morning everyone…. following is a lesson about time and life. “Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8

The Purposes in God’s Timing
1  There is a season for everything, and a time for every event under heaven:
2  a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to uproot what was planted;
3  a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to tear down, and a time to build up;
4  a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5  a time to scatter stones, and a time to gather stones; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
 6  a time to search, and a time to give up searching; a time to keep, and a time to discard;
 7  a time to tear, and a time to mend; a time to be silent, and a time to speak;

8  a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.”

Minister Neecy😇 

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Sometimes People Won’t Understand the Plan


Good afternoon family and friends. When God is telling you to move but the way seems unclear, have faith; wherever the Lord sends you He will also direct your steps. Sometimes people won’t understand the plan, but that is okay, just put the rest of your life in God’s hand. He is able, He is the Man. Amen Minister Neecy😇

22  I concluded that it is worthwhile for people to find joy in their accomplishments, because that is their inheritance, since who can see what will exist after them? Ecclesiastes 3:22

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Living in sin is living in darkness


“And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light. God saw that the light was good, and he separated the light from the darkness.” Genesis 1: 3-5

Living in sin is living in darkness? 

I don’t know what it will take to convince people that God knows every move we make.  At some point in life, we need to decide whose side we are on.  There’s a dark side and there’s the light.  The Lord is not a god of Darkness he is the God of light.

Knowing this one would think fear should set in whenever we entertain living in darkness. 

Darkness can also represent the people we associate with, the people we love,  the people we hate, and anybody who resist the Gospel of Jesus Christ. The word Hate should not be part of a Christian’s vocabulary or not reside in his or her heart.

So the question becomes how do you want to end this walk?

You cannot willfully frequent caves of darkness and expect God to shine His magnificent LIGHT over your life.

The environment you crave determines your source of energy?

Minister Neecy

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How to Successfully Alleviate Stress and Survive


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I guess it’s true, stress can kill and success is defined in many ways! In just five weeks, I learned several things about the effects of stress and how success or the lack of, are closely related.  And, to my surprise, I also learned that there are different kinds of stress?

“I don’t have time to worry about tomorrow because my plate is full of today”

No doubt people define success differently, but in my opinion, success is not part of an equation that includes a high level of stress. Who can dispute that “burdensome stress” is detrimental to one’s quality of life? Furthermore, “it is impossible to be at your best when you are stressed.”

If the life one lives is so stressful that it results in not wanting to, “ wake-up and smell the coffee” so-to-speak, then the overall assessment of that life is earnestly compromised.

Stress is a powerful energy! But, even though there is no way to live a life stress-free, there are many options available that can reduce or keep stress at a healthy level. A healthy stress level maximizes the brevity of life. Clearing one’s plate is a start. “The best way to effectively free one’s plate of life’s junk food for the soul is to do a self-inventory.” Once a self-inventory is done, the next step is to begin a process of elimination. Get rid of everything toxic, serves no purpose in your life, or causes a degenerative way of life. Be warned, though, sometimes this process means having to distance yourself from a lover, family member or close friend. People are major stress carriers! That said, it behooves you to start the process of elimination with people. Good luck with that!

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This is how you change your life


The most important lesson every Christian needs to learn is “Sin is contrary to Faith and everyone who sins breaks the law; no one who lives in him keeps on sinning, and no one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him. 1 John 3: 4,6)

Don’t be discouraged about your present circumstances. You made it this far didn’t you? The question is: “Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? If the answer to that question is yes then make up your mind to change your life. Give your heart free reign! Change begins in the head of anybody who is no longer interested in living a life that brings no joy. Somebody said, “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.” I agree one hundred percent. Sure, changing is easier said than done but once you start the process it will become less difficult to accomplish.  Opposition to situations brings about change. In other words, when you change your mind you change your life…

There will be no better time than this day to start changing your life. “But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, with men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26 (KJV)

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Healing Waters: Get Up and Walk


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Good morning everyone…Do you want to get well?

Ask the Lord to immerse you in healing water Today! Do not be afraid. All you have to do to receive healing is want to get well. God did not put you here to watch you suffer and sink.

He placed you in this world to see you swim. You have a purpose, He has a plan for your life that is too wonderful and complex for you to understand. But know it is superior to anything man or earth can offer or promise. The catch is…you have to get up and walk…

Will you give Him a chance?

“Now there is in Jerusalem near the Sheep Gate a pool, which in Aramaic is called Bethesda[a] and which is surrounded by five covered colonnades. 3 Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed.

One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years.
When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?”

“Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.”

8 Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.”9 At once the man was cured; he picked his mat up and walked. (John 5: 2 -7)
Ask the Lord to immerse you in healing water Today! Do not be afraid. All you have to do to receive healing is want to get well. God did not put you here to watch you suffer and sink.
He placed you in this world to see you swim.

You have a purpose, He has a plan for your life that is too wonderful and complex for you to understand. But know it is superior to anything man or earth can offer or promise.

Will you give Him a chance?

Minister Neecy😇

 

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DO YOU KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HAPPINESS AND JOY?


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Maybe you are a nice guy, pretty woman, and or brilliant human being; but are you happy, content and exceptionally confident in the state that you are in? Wise men and women aspire to find joy which comes from God and is the key to finding contentment in life regardless of circumstances. Foolish people depend man to make them happy. We both know how the latter usually ends. Wisdom is another godly gift available to the chosen. Wisdom is said to be more valuable than gold. Often confused with “store-bought-sense” wisdom is only afforded to those who believe that all of their strength, knowledge and worth comes from God.

A wise man or woman knows that at best, happiness can only get you through a bad day, while God’s joy is eternal capable of weathering every storm of life.

When I look back over my life I see numerous times when I mistook happiness for joy. One of those times was when my son was born. However, when God took him away I quickly learned the difference between “happiness and joy.”

Happiness is a temporary state of mind and is difficult to maintain. I cannot count the times it left me out in the cold. This time I was filled with grief, despair, anger and confusion. It could not give me peace, understanding or strength because the task of happiness is to make people feel good for a little while. On the other hand, joy comforted me when I ran out of happy memories, cried myself to sleep at night or entertained heart-wrenching thoughts. The joy I had the world did not give me so thank God, the world could not take it from me. Joy made it possible for me to trust God and understand that my son did not belong to me.

 

Minister Neecy

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Forgiven but Never Forgotten


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Learning the difference between forgiving and forgetting can be quite arduous, even for believers. Depending on who we are, where we come from and what awaits us in life, because of where we come from, has a lot to do with the capacity to forgive and forget.

Only give heed to yourself and keep your soul diligently, so that you do not forget the things which your eyes have seen and they do not depart from your heart all the days of your life; but make them known to your sons and your grandsons.  Deuteronomy 4:9

What I have determined based on history is “God never intended for people to forget their past, if  He had, there would be no bible?” Therefore, it is absolutely necessary that we do not forget, but instead, learn from past mistakes as well as accomplishments. When we hear the phrase, “God put our past behind us for a reason, we should not misinterpret its true meaning.” Here the issue is not about merely recalling the past. Instead, it is about dwelling in the past, there is a remarkable difference!  I pray often for strength to forgive those who have trespassed against me, as well as for forgiveness from those I may have violated in any manner. Sometimes I have to fight those battles with a heavy heart…..down on my knees.

Of David. Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name! Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s. Psalm 103: 1-22

Dwelling on the past is tantamount to sitting on a pity pot. In this instance, one is recalling the past for all the wrong reasons. The intent is not to grow but to decrease. You know what I mean, like, when it feels so good to feel so bad? Love can do that! It is one of those emotions that can make you do crazy things, like wanting to walk back the memory, at a time and place when love was good so you can cry about it! If you choose to inhabit heartbreak, there is no way you can move forward. That is dwelling in the past. There’s also such a thing as “dwelling on the past.” An example of dwelling in the past is “blaming your present situation on something that happened in the past.” The key word here is “blaming.”

I ran across the article below on Facebook yesterday, written by Frank West. Now I know I am not the only person, “who feels some kind of way” for President Obama and the First Family, because of what they have gone through. In error, some people say race relations got worse since President Obama’s been in office. Well, newsflash, that’s just not true. What really happened is, the ugliness of race relations just got more exposure, amplified and called out, because of who this Black man became. Racism has never been a thing of the past and has always been prevalent in America, way before President Obama and his parent was born. His legacy will hang on this present, which will one day become the past. How can we forget, better yet, how can anybody ask us to forget? And, why should we forget?

Minister Neecy

 

 

 

 

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How To Find Your Purpose In Life?


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It is not about me it’s about God.

Have you been wondering what your purpose in life is?

If the answer is yes, “start identifying desires in life you not only obsess about but are also uncontrollably passionate about.”

“Purpose does not exist without passion.”

“Once you search and identify your desires; remove any you know God would not approve of. ” Unfortunately there are times when we want something or somebody we don’t need, nor does the Lord want us to have. Making decisions to abandon wants of any kind is not always easy. However, if we can’t, God can.

Once you make a conscious decision to change how you live, think and behave; doors you never knew existed will begin to open, right before your very eyes. Believe it or not, God didn’t put us here to attest to our agony, even though He warned us of it’s coming. Overcoming adversity helps one grow stronger, emotionally and physically. As the old folk used to say “whatever doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.”

Why not ask God to help you make 2016 a year of purpose. Then, get ready and be willing to accept his plan for your life. It really is a win-win situation.

Dear Lord, show me your plans for my life. Bless me with wisdom, faith, love and joy so I can understand how to do your will while realizing my purpose.  Amen

Minister Neecy

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The Good News ~ You are Never too Old to Be a Soldier in God’s Army


 

“For consider your calling, brothers: not many of you were wise according to worldly standards, not many were powerful, not many were of noble birth. But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong; God chose what is low and despised in the world, even things that are not, to bring to nothing things that are, so that no human being might boast in the presence of God. And because of him, you are in Christ Jesus, who became to us wisdom from God, righteousness and sanctification and redemption, so that, as it is written, “Let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord.” (1 Corinthians 1: 26-31 ESV)

Who among us, does not know at least one person who is guilty of boasting before the Lord? Politicians come to mind! So as not to call out anybody in particular, let’s just talk bible. The above-referenced scripture covers at least three powerful lessons. “The first lesson is about knowing your calling, the center of your expertise.”

Do you know why you’re here, your purpose, God’s intention for your life? If we believe what the bible says, specifically, 1 Corinthians 1:26, smart by worldly standards does not secure a special place in God’s heart. In fact, in 1 Corinthians 1, Jesus talks specifics on who is worthy, in the eyes of the Lord. Surprisingly, they are not who you expected. He stated, “not many of them were wise according to worldly standards, powerful or of noble birth.” Why would God choose the foolish in the world to shame the wise? Who has any need for weak anything? Yet, it is possible the weak can shame the strong. The underlying lesson here is, God is not impressed by the world and because of that, it would benefit us enormously, if we chose the Lord over the world. That means, humbling ourselves, loving people who don’t love us, helping those less fortunate than ourselves and surrendering to God, so He can work in our lives.

It’s not easy being a soldier in God’s army! Anybody who tells you it is is not a soldier in his army. The battle is not ours, but there will be wars as long as there is an earth, or until Jesus returns. The Good News, no matter who you are, or how little you have, you can still be a soldier in God’s army. He has no problem enlisting the poor, uneducated, oppressed, weak or lost. God is able to make lemonade out of lemons any second of the day.

Minister Neecy

 

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I Trust You


 

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When my mother was overwhelmed I could tell.
Sometimes I’d hear her mumble “I don’t know if I’m coming or going!”

As for me, “I’ve been having a lot of days where I don’t know whether to laugh or cry!”

Its like I don’t know where my life’s headed, nor how I ended up here in the first place. “Oh, how time fly’s when your work is not done.”

I ran across this poem today; reading it helped me find peace within utter chaos.

Thank You Father for assuring me, guiding my wings and directing my paths.

“I have come to accept the feeling of not knowing where I am going. I have also trained myself to love it. Because it is only when we are suspended in mid-air with no landing in sight, that we force our wings to unravel and alas begin our flight. And as we fly, we still may not know where we are going to. But the miracle is in the unfolding of the wings. You may not know where you’re going, but you know that so long as you spread your wings, the winds will carry you.” ~ C. JoyBell

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Your Smile


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Yesterday on Facebook I saw a post that caught my eye. What really got my attention was the picture in the post. It depicted a young woman sporting a million dollar smile. “That young woman was my daughter.”
Although she’s 36 years old now I remember times when I had to get on her about taking her beautiful smile for granted. You see back then, she didn’t understand that it takes more energy and facial muscles to frown than to smile. Today she appreciates the gift.

Here’s her post:

Janeah Davis

Yesterday at 3:09 pm · Instagram ·

Never let anything or anybody steal your smile. Have great weekend friends and fam…‪#‎flygirl‬ ‪#‎flygirlchronicles‬ ‪#‎fitchic‬ ‪#‎mylifematters‬

I’ve always Loved the old saying “if you meet somebody who doesn’t have a smile, give them yours!”

Granted, “nobody feels like smiling 24/7” but that doesn’t mean you should only smile when you think you have something to smile about. Truth be told, every day you’re not pushing up daisies or forced to look at the back of your eyelids is reason enough to smile. If you’re reading this post; you my friend have a reason to smile.

The smile on my daughter’s face doesn’t exist in absence of trials and tribulation. I know firsthand she’s endured and overcome many but at the end of the day, this girl still finds reasons to give God the Glory, with a smile, while turning Satan’s frown upside down. “We owe it to our children to teach them how to smile!” The best way to do that is by example. Sometimes they don’t know how blessed they are but you do!

❤️💕❤️💕

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Fruits of My Labor| I am the Seeds I’ve Planted


 

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“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6 NIV

Fruits of my labor show up in specific areas of my life. The most obvious one seems to be in how my children turned out, their children, even those not yet born.

Proper tending to,  and regular watering yields good fruit. When Jesus spoke of “Good fruit” He was talking about people’s internal soul, spiritual character. To produce a good crop one must work the field. Hands get dirty when we work fields, get can rough, and sometimes you sweat. To produce good fruit you have to exert energy both physically and spiritually,

Another thing, expecting something good to come out of something you’ve neglected is wishful thinking at best.

Children can be compared to crops, fields, and gardens; they need tending too, spiritual water and nourishing food to grow. They are fruits of my labor and yours. Like soil that produces fruit, and vegetation our children need somebody willing to work on them. To raise up physically, emotionally, and spiritually healthy offspring we must engage,  work on and with them constantly.

In fact, a living parents job is never done. Once I heard a late uncle say, “no matter how old you get I’ll still be (30) years older than you. My uncle’s statement provoked me to look at the big picture of “a parent’s job.”

In my uncle’s own wise but sarcastic way, he was saying that kids will always be kids to their parents. More importantly, my uncle was reminding me to never disrespect him no matter how old I got. Being fruit of my parent’s labor disrespecting elders was not in my nature. I am the product of parents who did not tolerate disrespect, disobedience or laziness.

To see a reward in the fruits of my labor I must work hard. Satan tries to convince us otherwise; he wants mothers and fathers to forfeit parental responsibility, and leave God’s children to their own devices. We see evidence of this every minute of the day, and it’s heartbreaking.

Don’t let Satan fool you. Try your best to sow good seed during your lifetime, individually as well as through your children. That way, when your life is over, the Lord will say “well done my child.”

Like most of us, children won’t always do what we tell them to, as a child or as an adult.

Sometimes, the only option parents have to enjoy peace of mind is believing God for what He said He would do. Having faith is the only way to carry out this mission.

Raising a child up in the way he should go? The task at hand is to do it even when signs of resistance arise. The idea is, “one day he or she will remember what you taught them, how they were raised, and how you behaved as an adult.

Parents are the most powerful example in the world of what a child will eventually end up being? Let’s face it. Most parents can take credit for modeling behavior most children wind up imitating. Parents also inadvertently formulate words and conversations in the mouths of their offspring.

I don’t know about you, but the last thing I want on my conscience is feeling responsible for my child’s major failures. Making mistakes is a given, knowing how to avoid repeating the same mistakes is a different thing. A fool doesn’t know he’s a fool, but other people do. A child may not know his actions are foolish, unless he or she can compare foolishness to outcomes resulting from making good decisions. That’s where mothers and fathers come in. A parent’s most important assignment is “raising a child up in the way he should go is the way to go!”

 

My grandmother used to say, “when a mother is rocking her baby she doesn’t know if she’s rocking a blessing or a curse.” While some parents believe in error that status, fame or fortune can define a child’s destiny, believers know this is not the case.

The flourishing of sin is the product of neglected fields, fruits of contaminated water, seed hastily sown. God wants us to take our time planting His seeds, put them in the ground right, so they grow and multiply. To grow and multiply, seeds must take root. To take root they need water, and again, they must be tended too.

 

The Lord wants us to reap good things. “To do that, we must do a better job selecting seed, determining placement, watering crops on a regular basis. And, the water needs to be fresh, pure, free of contaminates.

Minister Neecy

 

 

 

THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD FOR THESE REASONS


THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD FOR THESE REASONS

  • “I will love thee, O Lord, my strength. 2 The Lord is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.”

King James Version (KJV) by Public Domain God is our bridge over troubled waters. He is our light in times of darkness and our protector in moments of danger.

If you live long enough, there will be times when your life suddenly falls apart. Maybe you’ll lose a child, parent or a spouse. You may even witness your child being engulfed in the flames of a reckless life of drugs or alcohol. Whatever the situation, it’s not pretty.

However, it is during these times when you should look to Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior for deliverance.

Emotional Garbage has no Business Taking Up Space in Your Head

When tribulation and trials enter our life there is nothing we can do to curtail them. This is God’s way of showing us that we can do nothing without Him. In fact, sometimes we’re forced to make critical and painful decisions in our life as well. Those decisions often define our moral and spiritual fate.

Now the death I speak of is a spiritual one. And in the event we choose to handle things on our own, we may as well curl up and die. THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD FOR THESE REASONS, I don’t want to die a spiritual death, I want eternal life.

So, today, if you don’t know which way to turn, and have no answers, then get down on your knees and call out to “Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.” Let Him know there’s no other help you know! Surrender now!

THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD FOR THESE REASONS….He has never failed me, ignored me, ridiculed me, or left me alone.

As humans we are subject to experiencing highs and lows in life. “It is during these times of highs and lows in our life God does his best work.” Then He’s ready to repair the shattered fragments that pull us apart.

He can make us whole too, if we let Him. ” Make no mistake, God will only knock so many times and not get an answer at the door. If man repeatedly rejects Christ, Christ will soon reject him.

Remember, Jesus went where He was Celebrated, not just tolerated. THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD FOR THESE REASONS And brother’s and sister’s, it’s time to get our houses in order, so when Jesus knocks again, you won’t be ashamed to open the door and let Him in. That’s really the issue at hand; being worthy of his call and visit.

The Lord Is My Shepherd

“The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name sake.

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me, your rod and your staff they comfort me. You prepare a table before me, in the presence of my enemies.

You anoint my head with oil, my cup overflows. Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.” Psalms 23

ABUSE: 10 CLUES YOU ARE AN ABUSED WOMAN


ABUSE: 10 CLUES YOU ARE AN ABUSED WOMAN

Whatever you do don’t give up on love or hurt yourself. No matter how bad the situation is God can bring you out.

Don’t be embarrassed about wanting to confirm whether you are in an abusive relationship. You are not alone. Unfortunately, sometimes we accept unacceptable behavior for so long, it starts to feel normal.

And, let me get this out here, Christian women are not immune to abusive relationships.

This post is not about the world and how it’s men treat women, as much as it’ s about how proclaimed men of God treat significant others.

Why do women keep abuse secret? Not only do they fear retribution for outing the abuser, sometimes they don’t see a way out. This where faith and God come in. Do you believe “you can do all things through God Who strengthens you?” Hopefully, you do. He is your way out!

living with abuse is insane, too surreal. Surely women of God know that everything about abuse is wrong. It doesn’t matter why an abuser attacks. The only thing that matters is that he or she laid hands on you. The thing to do is walk away not strike out.

If you relate to more than half of the 10 clues of an abused woman, you need to run. I don’t care if you’re a preacher, teacher, lawyer, doctor or garbage man. This life is not what God had planned for you, and he or she is not worth the price you’ll have to pay if you stay.

Husbands should not force wives to have sex…either.

Now don’t get this statement twisted with, times when you have sex with your husband and don’t feel like it. This is something totally different.

Forgive ME FOR NOT FORGIVING YOU

An example of a case fitting this profile is when a man physically subdues or forces you to give in to his sexual desires, regardless of your feelings.

Forced sex is rape, no matter who does it. Cruel or threatening words can also escalate to abuse, even if he never lays a hand on you. Verbal abuse is a precursor to emotional abuse, as well as a sign that a person will become physically violent.

Below is a list of possible signs of abuse. Every sign of abuse is not included in this list, only the most commonly ignored or obvious ones.

1. He has to know what you’re doing every second of your day

2. Always accusing you of cheating or stepping out on him

3. Discourages or outright refuses to let you see your family or friends

4. Has a problem with you furthering your education

5. Refuses to allow you to work outside of the home

6. Becomes angry with you after consuming alcohol or drugs

7. Controls your money

8. Decides what you can and cannot wear or eat

9. Humiliates you in front of others

10. Blames you for his anger

Because the following situations aren’t subtle by any means, they are not included in the 10 clues.

Additionally, these are more serious and when present, indicative of an advanced stage of domestic abuse or violence. If you can personally identify with any of two or more signs here you must seek help, escape immediately. Yes, it’s that serious… Continue reading “ABUSE: 10 CLUES YOU ARE AN ABUSED WOMAN”